The social psychology behind the significance of marriage in the Indian subcontinent

People of the Indian subcontinent weigh a person’s life on the basis of their marriage. A person with a successful marriage holds a higher place in the society as compared to those who had a failed marriage or is unmarried. People in the Indian society often look down upon those who have crossed a specific ‘age of marriage’ or had a ‘Failed marriage’.

We often hear them criticize those who has crossed the said age of marriage stating them to be ‘unworthy’ or someone who has some kind of ‘problem’. Such practices are wrong and biased on so many levels and certainly does not define a person or this/her life.

You were not brought into this world solely to get married. While marriage can be a meaningful and fulfilling part of life for some, it is not the ultimate measure of a person’s worth or success. Yet, society has long conditioned us to believe that our future and happiness hinge primarily on when and whom we marry.

This narrow perspective often overshadows other vital aspects of life—personal achievements, financial independence, emotional well-being, and overall self-growth. A person can be successful, wealthy, independent, and in a good mental and physical state, yet still be judged as incomplete simply because they are unmarried.

Basing one’s self-worth on marriage is not only limiting but also precarious, as it is not something entirely within our control. A marriage involves two individuals, each with their own evolving personalities, expectations, and life circumstances.

Factors such as timing, compatibility, societal pressures, and unforeseen challenges further add to its unpredictability. Given this complexity, it is neither rational nor fair to allow something so fluid to define our identity and fulfillment.

Instead of viewing marriage as the cornerstone of a meaningful life, we should recognize that many other factors contribute to personal happiness and success. Career growth, financial stability, meaningful relationships (both romantic and platonic), self-discovery, and mental well-being all play crucial roles in shaping a fulfilling life.

While marriage can be an important part of one’s journey, it is not the only significant milestone. True fulfillment comes from embracing a broader perspective—one that values individual growth and purpose beyond just marital status.